Supporting a loved one with bipolar disorder can be incredibly challenging, but it also offers an opportunity to make a profound difference in their life. It’s an emotional experience that can include moments of intense highs and lows – which can take a toll on everyone. By educating yourself about the condition, you can become a better ally to your friend or family member throughout their journey. Ways to show your support include offering understanding, compassion, and action, which we’ll dive into below.
Understanding the condition is the first step in preparing to support someone with bipolar disorder. Bipolar disorder is a complex mental health condition characterized by extreme fluctuations in mood that come in episodes, which can have an outsized impact on a person's daily activities, energy levels, thought process, and overall well-being.
Individuals with bipolar disorder experience intense emotional shifts that can continue for several days, weeks, or even months. Unlike your typical mood swings, those with bipolar disorder often find their swings greatly impair varying aspects of their everyday life.
It’s important to know that bipolar disorder is a medical condition for which continuing care and professional support is recommended by qualified medical professionals. Having bipolar disorder is not a choice, but taking steps to best manage it for your lifestyle is.
With advancements in research, it’s now known that bipolar disorder exists in different forms – some overlapping challenges and each coming with their own set of unique difficulties. Some examples are listed below:
Understanding the specific type of bipolar disorder your loved one has can help you tailor your support accordingly. As always, consulting qualified medical professionals is a strong start to set a solid path for supportive engagement.
Learning the triggers and signs of mania and depression may help you support someone with bipolar disorder. People suffering from bipolar conditions may not even realize they're experiencing a mood shift, or they may feel too overwhelmed to seek help.
During a manic episode, your loved one may seem unusually happy, energetic, or even irritable. Be on the lookout for:
While mania can sometimes feel euphoric, it can also lead to poor judgment, strained relationships, and potentially harmful situations.
On the other side of the spectrum, depressive episodes can be equally debilitating. Watch for:
During a depressive phase, your loved one may withdraw, stop engaging with the world, and isolate themselves. Recognizing these patterns can help you reach out and provide support when they may not have the strength to ask for it themselves.
Triggers can vary from person to person. Some common ones include:
When you understand these triggers, you can intervene and offer assistance in the hopes of preventing escalation.
Since individuals with bipolar disorder may experience its effects differently, one of the things you can do to help a loved one is simply asking them how they'd like to be supported. Do they prefer you check in regularly? Do they want space when they're feeling overwhelmed? Get the conversation going so you can understand how you can best be there for them.
Sometimes during a manic or depressive episode, a person might not be fully aware of their own symptoms. Gently pointing out when you've noticed a change in their behavior can support awareness and action. Take care to approach them with empathy and without judgment. A simple "I've noticed you seem more stressed than usual – do you want to talk about it?" can go a long way.
Bipolar disorder often requires ongoing treatment, including medication and therapy. Sometimes people with the condition have varying views about treatment, so be prepared for the possibility.
Bipolar disorder can sometimes lead to crises, such as suicidal thoughts or actions. Be ready with a crisis plan that can guide you during an emergency. This plan might include:
Be careful not to let your support for your loved one negatively impact your own mental health. It's good to be there for them, but important to also look out for yourself. There are ways to prioritize your mental health which include:
Talking to a therapist may be helpful for you. Therapy can give you tools to manage stress and emotional exhaustion.
You're not alone in supporting a loved one with bipolar disorder. Seek out others going through the same thing and connect with them either in person or online. They may be able to share insights on how to take care of yourself, or give you the encouragement to keep going.
Decide what you need to feel relaxed and recharged. For some it could mean taking a beach day, and for others, unwinding by playing video games. These acts of self-care could keep you from feeling burnt out.
There is only so much you can do. Recognize when you need to step back and take a break. Consider whether it's time for you to see a therapist for help in getting to a better place.
Your loved one may have limitations, especially during an episode. Being patient and showing compassion may be good for your relationship, but it may not be enough. It’s important to understand and accept their limits just as you work to understand and accept your own.
Consider joining Cerebral to connect with a compassionate, credentialed therapist who can provide the support you deserve. We’re here to help you create a personalized treatment plan and provide the tools and care needed to prioritize your mental health while continuing to be there for your friend or loved one.
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