Should statements are negative patterns of thinking that can add to our worry, fear and frustration. We put unnecessary pressure on ourselves when we use “should” statements by making ourselves feel guilty or as if we have failed. We can use the “should” replacement formula to change how we talk, and in the process, lift ourselves up instead of bringing ourselves down.
Resource inspired and adapted from Carrie M. Wrigley, LCSW, morninglightcounseling.org